Being best man is a huge honour and an even bigger responsibility. The list of duties is long, and they play a vital role before, during and after the wedding ceremony.
It’s important to pick the right person for the job and communicate clearly with them throughout the wedding planning process. You need them to understand how to do their job well – don’t leave anything to chance. With this in mind, I’ve compiled some top tips for your best man. Simply forward this link and I’ll do the rest!
Although people tend to focus on organising the stag and writing their wedding speech, the main role of the best man is to relieve the groom of as many tasks and responsibilities as possible. Sit down with your engaged friends early on and find out what’s expected of you. How can you be most helpful in the run-up to the wedding and on the day itself? Read Everything You Need to Know About Being a Best Man for a list of possible duties.
As an experienced wedding and event planner, I know how much time and effort goes into organising a good party. If you’re in charge of the stag, start early. Find out what the groom wants and get a potential guest list ASAP. Sourcing a suitable venue and/or accommodation can take a while, so give yourself plenty of time to find the perfect solution. The same goes for other duties like hiring a suit and writing your wedding speech. Even if you usually perform well under pressure, the stakes are too high to risk leaving things to the last minute.
Being best man means you have a key role to play in the smooth running of an incredibly important event. Whatever your preferred method of organisation is, now’s the time to use it. Write lists, set reminders, and keep checking in with the couple to ensure you’re doing everything you can to help.
On the day itself, good timekeeping is essential. It’s up to you to keep the groom on track with regular updates and check for roadworks or delays if you’re travelling to the venue. Always allow more time than you think you’ll need. If the couple have invested in a Wedding Planner or On-the-Day Co-Ordinator, ask him or her where you can help. Oh, and don’t start knocking back the booze until you’ve completed your duties!
Don’t miss our post with everything you need to know about being a bridesmaid.
Val x
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Top Tips for Your Best Man (From a Wedding Planner)
Being best man is a huge honour and an even bigger responsibility. The list of duties is long, and they play a vital role before, during and after the wedding ceremony.
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Val Mattinson is the founder and Head Planner at Benessamy, specialising in luxury weddings and beautifully curated celebrations across the UK and the Caribbean. With over 15 years of experience, Val is known for her calm, reassuring approach and meticulous attention to detail — supporting couples and hosts who want an unforgettable experience without the overwhelm.
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