Even before I fell in love with organising luxurious weddings throughout the Caribbean and around the world, destination weddings and elopements had my heart.
Watching a couple get married is always special but celebrating with them in an incredible location takes things to another level. Despite being their biggest fan, I’d be the first to admit a destination wedding isn’t the right choice for everyone. If it’s an option you’re considering, here are some things to think about before making a firm decision…
In general, overseas weddings tend to be laidback, intimate affairs. If you choose a beach location, you’ll need to consider the climate and terrain when selecting outfits for yourselves and the rest of your wedding party. Although a formal dress code isn’t out of the question, sadly ball gowns and sand dunes aren’t a good fit! A destination wedding can be just as special and stylish as any other celebration, but you need to be sure the look and feel aligns with the vision you have for your wedding day.
If your guests are travelling overseas for your wedding, it’s partly your responsibility to help them have a good time once they arrive. If you’re not comfortable organising daytime activities and hosting extra events in the evenings, a destination wedding might not be for you.
Organising a wedding from afar is a very different experience to planning an event closer to home. You may have less control over certain elements. For example, it may not be possible to visit the venue or meet suppliers prior to your wedding. Make sure you’re OK with this before moving forward with your plans or enlist the help of an experienced destination wedding planner like me who can tour venues and liaise with local suppliers on your behalf.
This can be a deal-breaker. Whether due to financial, health or schedule constraints, it’s likely there will be guests unable to attend your wedding if it’s taking place overseas. Some couples can make peace with this, others can’t imagine saying, ‘I do’ without certain people looking on. Only you can decide, but you may want to discuss your plans with friends and family first. Do they feel able to make the trip? Are they excited to plan a holiday around your wedding? Once you know where they stand, you’ll be able to make an informed decision.
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Whether you’re getting married in the UK or overseas, Benessamy can help! Discover our Wedding Planning Services or get in touch to arrange a consultation.
Val x
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Exchanging vows on the shore is wonderful, but what if a gentle sea breeze and sand between your toes isn’t part of your wedding vision?
The island of Jamaica is surrounded by the Caribbean Sea and covered in lush mountains, rainforests, and reef-lined beaches. The birthplace of reggae, it’s a location filled with unforgettable experiences, from crocodile safaris to horseback riding in the sea.
Val Mattinson is the founder and Head Planner at Benessamy, specialising in luxury weddings and beautifully curated celebrations across the UK and the Caribbean. With over 15 years of experience, Val is known for her calm, reassuring approach and meticulous attention to detail — supporting couples and hosts who want an unforgettable experience without the overwhelm.
If you’re beginning your planning journey and would like expert guidance, get in touch to arrange an introductory call. Val would love to help you create a celebration that feels thoughtful, joyful and effortlessly seamless.
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So, you’re engaged and ready to embark on your wedding planning journey. Or at least you would be if you knew where to start!
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